Lessons are always humbling. They are especially humbling when they come from your own children. I have a lot of lessons to learn.
The other day I was trying to be a disciplinarian and put my kids up to some work around the house. I try and do this daily, because seriously....picking up after them gets old quickly. Unfortunately I feel like I have turned into a bit of a nag with trying to keep my house in order. It just DRIVES me crazy when it is chaotic with "stuff" in here, especially when we have to be indoors with this harsh winter.
I was ordering them to clean up this, and clean up that (I was kind of on one.....a rampage that is). Alyssa finally just looked at me and said. "Mom why do always say.....I WANT IT PERFECT." I stopped for a moment caught off guard. My response "I do?" She then went on to remind me that I always say everything has to be "perfect". I honestly didn't even realize I always used this phrase.
My nine year old girl then looked at me and said....."Mom you know it doesn't matter if its perfect. We just try our best!" Ouch.....that one hurt. She is TOTALLY RIGHT! However at the time I was still on a rampage. My response....."Alyssa it has to be perfect because I say so....and perfect it will be! Get back to work." The completely WRONG thing to say.
Alyssa's comment hit me like a ton of bricks. Because I never want my kids to think "they are anything less by being their best." I want them to feel loved and appreciated just the way they are. I was feeling kind of bad about the whole situation. Every time I feel bad about a situation I decide I need to read something from LDS.org. I put a topic in the search engine....and boom I have like a million talks I can read. Most of the time after I read a talk I feel 100 percent better about myself. This is one of the reasons I love it so much.
This time however was a little different. I wasn't validated and realize I need to change.
1. I needed to apologize to my kids
2. I need to re focus and re group on the important things
I was reminded I need to re focus when I read a talk given on charity by Sister Bonnie Parkin. She talked about how charity and what true charity really is. She used the example in the New Testament of Martha and Mary when the Savior came to eat at dinner at their home. This is part of her talk.